When Permission feels like Failure by Stephanie Perkinson for the Boho Collective

It's funny when life seems to run in themes.

This happens to you too, right? The same mirror is held up to us over and over. It soon becomes impossible to ignore, that necessary work of actually looking and absorbing the message. 

For me, the last few weeks has been all about permission, giving it and receiving it. Friends, family, clients. Everywhere I turn, it's there.

Permission to let her be human.
Permission to let go of all the clothes you bought but never wore.
Permission to buy the packaged granola bars instead of making them yourself.
Permission to buy takeout as much as you need right now.
Permission to rest when weary.
Permission to ask a little bit more of those around you.
Permission to let a secret or two slip out.
Permission to chase joy and nothing else.
Permission to say what you mean.

Take a minute and think about your relationship with permission.

What does the word mean to you? Does it feel like an excuse? Like laziness? Like giving up? Like failure? Like complacency? Like undeserved justification?

What if it meant approval, a blessing, freedom, empowerment, acceptance or approval? Those are beautiful things, my love. Isn't that what we are all seeking? From others? From ourselves? 

Think about how you feel inside permission when someone else grants it to you. You breathe easier, your shoulders soften, space is opened up where is once felt so crowded and uncomfortable. It's ok to desire those things. It's ok to seek permission from others sometimes. You don't always have to go it alone. Giving ourselves permission isn't really a gift when it's wrapped in guilt. Sometimes, it's only when it's from the lips of another, that we can actually sink into the goodness that comes from that offering. It truly is a blessing to have someone in your life who can see you so fully, in your striving and your struggling. 

The end goal though...that's the one that is the most powerful. The end goal is when you can begin to look in the mirror and truly give YOURSELF permission to take what you need. That is when the magic happens. That is when the gifts you grant yourself start to ripple out and effect those around you.  Seeing someone else give themselves permission allows others to start doing the same. Make ripples my love.

 Permission is most definitely not failure and there is no shame is receiving.

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Stephanie is a certified holistic health councilor who helps women reclaim what they have lost and supports them as they heal their relationship with themselves and their space.

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